Performer: Journey
Songwriters: Steve Perry,
Neal Schon, Jonathan Cain
Original
Release:
Frontiers
Year: 1983
Definitive
Version:
Live Frontiers, 1983. I haven’t been able to find the official name of the
bootleg that Scott had and made a copy of for me in 1984 or ’85, because I
haven’t been able to find a single recording that has all three components: Philadelphia,
No More Lies and this song.
I
suppose, like any young man courting a young lady, I was intimidated by Beth’s
father. It’s not that he did anything in particular to make me feel that way,
per se, but unlike Beth’s mom, he wasn’t warm and engaging.
That
doesn’t mean he was cold. He just kept to himself and didn’t say much unless he
had something important to say. Remember: This was a man who told us when it
was time for me to leave by tossing a shoe down the stairs to the basement. You
didn’t want to be there when that last shoe dropped.
And
that was the primary thing: Mr. Mac was the enemy. He was the sheriff, and I
was the miscreant prowling the henhouse. I was trying to sneak off with as much
bounty as I could; he was there to prevent me from doing just that. It was a
natural rivalry, and we both understood the other’s role.
When
Beth and I started dating, I was very young and very immature, and the less
time spent around Beth’s father, the better. That was due more to not knowing
him all that well but also that I just didn’t want to be around adults much
anyway. As time went by, that became less of an issue, of course.
When
Beth and I would watch TV at her place Sunday afternoons, he’d be there in his
recliner with us. I spent many a dinner in their dining room. One time, they
even invited Scott to come over, and I told him, OK, you better be on your BEST
behavior.
He
was, but Mr. Mac wasn’t. He and Erin poked some fun at the dinner-prayer ritual
much to Mrs. Mac’s chagrin. Scott and I looked at each other knowingly as Beth gave me the stink-eye. Hey,
WE’RE behaving here.
The
first time I ever really felt like a grown-up—and not just a kid pretending to
be one—was because of Mr. Mac. One day after work in the summer of 1985, I went
to see Beth. I knew she had been planning a shopping day with her mom and
sister, but she was supposed to have been back by the time I showed up, about 5.
Mr.
Mac came to the door and let me in, explaining that no one was home yet.
Usually, when that happened, that was my cue to head home until I heard back
from Beth, but this time, he invited me in instead.
He
was downstairs working on his train layout. (I mentioned this before, but Mr.
Mac’s train layout was a lot like my book—the fun was in the process and not
necessarily the accomplishment. He never finished his train layout.) If I
wanted, I could come down and have a beer.
What?
Really? I wasn’t the brightest bulb in the box, but even I knew the
significance of having the father of my girlfriend invite me to have a beer
with him in his basement bar. It was a BIG deal. I readily accepted … even
though I drank maybe one beer a month.
Actually,
he was about the same—not exactly a big drinker. His beer of choice, which was stocked
in his mini fridge downstairs (and which Beth and I never raided—never had an
interest in raiding), was Grain Belt.
Now,
for those of you who aren’t familiar with this brand, it was an old Minnesota
label that I knew from my beer-can collecting salad days in the Seventies. I’d
assumed it was long gone when I started to date Beth only to find out that—lo
and behold—Mr. Mac might have been the last customer outside of the Land of
10,000 Lakes. Lord only knows where he found it in Columbus.
But
now, here I was, sitting at the bar as Mr. Mac stood behind it, sipping on an
ice-cold Grain Belt from his personal stash. We listened to his Tommy Makem and
the Clancy Brothers records on a turntable that was likely to have Journey on
it as soon as Beth arrived. It was the first time that we ever really had
one-on-one time together.
We
talked about trains and beer, work, college, whatever. Mr. Mac turned on the AC
only as a last resort, so the basement was the place of refuge during the
summer, and it felt good to be where it was cool.
Almost
an hour went by before the women finally showed up. Beth called downstairs and
was surprised to see what was up. “Daddy gave YOU one of his Grain Belts?”
What? Can’t the sheriff and the miscreant break brews together? Actually, she
was more than pleased to find us there together.
So
was I. It was one of my favorite memories of being home during my college years
that didn’t involve Beth. I no longer felt intimidation. I felt respect.
That
didn’t mean I stopped prowling the henhouse, of course.
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