Thursday, July 26, 2012

No. 679 – Suffer

Performer: Smashing Pumpkins
Songwriter: Billy Corgan
Original Release: Gish
Year: 1991
Definitive Version: None

Oh, hey, what do you know? It’s another breakup song. Sorry about that; it’s just the (bad) luck of the draw that these have been on top of one another. This one isn’t as heavy (or as long of a post, thank goodness).

I had just discovered Smashing Pumpkins and Gish in October 1992 before Jenna and I went out for the last time. Unlike with Melanie, the end of whatever relationship Jenna and I had going came as no real surprise. The entire time we dated, I felt as though I were living on borrowed time anyway.

I assumed that because she had been with her previous boyfriend—living with him, in fact, now that I think about it—for more than a year, Jenna was going to need some alone/rebound time. Well, I was looking for more than being a rebound romance. My plan, as I mentioned, was to be cool and bide my time after I got the news that Jenna had broken up with her boyfriend. Events, however, conspired to commit that plan to the scrap heap, as I’ll detail in the not-so-distant future.

But after we started to date, I kept holding back, not wanting to push too fast, like I had to my detriment before. Ironically, THAT was the thing that doomed me this time around. Maybe it was inevitable that Jenna and I weren’t going to work out, regardless, but when I should have showed her more attention than I did (and I was afraid that if I swung in that direction, I’d show her too much), she saw that as disinterest. It was anything but, and in retrospect, I should have come clean with how I really felt. If I’ve learned anything in life—and that’s debatable—it’s that you should be honest at all times. It saves time, if nothing else.

Anyway, our last date was a horror double bill at a drive-in near to where she lived in Clio, north of Flint: Sleepwalkers and Pet Semetary II. Now, before you chastise me for that questionable choice, let me point out that it was Jenna’s idea. She was a horror-movie fan, and Halloween was right around the corner.

It wasn’t a great date; it was chilly and a light rain fell, which made it unpleasant to keep the windows down for the drive-in movie speakers. And I had a sense of foreboding as I drove away that night with Gish on the car stereo, not from the movies, which were predictably lame, but that my time with Jenna was up.

Sure enough, a few days later, I got a letter from Jenna giving me the heave-ho (which I think I still have somewhere for some reason). She wrote exactly what I had been thinking the entire time: She wasn’t ready to date someone else yet. She needed time to be alone, she wrote. It was confirmation that my original plan was correct, but I never had a chance to enact it.

That’s the way it goes, I guess. Rats.

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